the two things motive people

the desire of pleasure
to avoid pain

The human nature is to avoid pain first. That’s why we can survive. To make ourselves doing things, focus on the pain if we don’t do that thing.

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some thoughts from the seminar

The best time to start your own business: when

You have an idea to do better than all the other suppliers
You finance support you to do this.

The best way to learn team management skills is practice, not school, not books!
Don’t let your fear of failure company you. This is the same as my “what stops people […]

the 6 human needs

Need to feel certainty.
Need to feel uncertainty.
Need to feel significant.
Need to feel connection and love.
Need to feel growth.
Need to feel contribute.

These are what we need, not what we want, what we desire.
The keyword is feel. When you are doing some work, you are contributing, but if we can’t feel it, that’s not what we need.
These […]

I get the stick in my hand with a needle by myself!

I believe this will be one of the most important time of my life: we all have got a stick in hand and ask someone else to get it out with a needle or something, we all have got a stick out of other’s hand, but how many of us can get a stick out […]

no "goal" or "target", use "plan"

When I say goal or target, I don’t know when will I get that, and plant a meaning that I may not get that. Use plan instead, be clear when I want it, and how I will get it.

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people likes peoples like them

The same speed as they speek
The same loudly as they speek
The same percent of eye contact

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The power of "power"

They do the same: when you want to peak up, do something with your body and speak it out loadly “power”!

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no "but"

Use and. This looks more like a westen culture, when you say “but”, you add a “no” at whatever you just said. And others can feel this.

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no "can’t"

When I say “I can’t do it”, that means: either “I don’t know how to do it”, either “I don’t want to do it”
If I don’t know how to, learn it, If I don’t want to, forget it.

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no "I have to"

There’s nothing I have to do, I just choose to do. I compare several situations, and choose to do.

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